Spiritual Spotlight Series
Discover a world of healing, holistic, and spiritual modalities with the Spiritual Spotlight Series podcast. Every week, we introduce you to diverse spiritual practitioners, including psychics, energy healers, life coaches, spiritual thought leaders, and witches. Each episode offers inspiration and enlightenment through the unique journeys, experiences, and divine abilities of our guests. Perfect for those on a path to spiritual awakening, this podcast blends science and mysticism to expand your understanding of spirituality. Our mission is to open your eyes to the world around you, making complex concepts accessible and enlightening for anyone seeking spiritual growth. Whether you're new to spirituality or looking to deepen your knowledge, the Spiritual Spotlight Series is your go-to resource for awakening and transformation.
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Unveiling the Authentic Self: Elle Ebizadeh on Emotional Wellness and Nurturing Relationships
What happens when a successful entrepreneur turns soulful coach? We chat with Elle Ebizadeh , a dynamic life and relationship coach, about her transformative journey. From the breakdown of a relationship to the breakthrough of self-discovery, Elle opens up about her path to become a relationship coach.
She shares how learning to befriend her feelings and understanding her needs led to creating a more fulfilling life. If you've ever wondered how to balance professional success with emotional well-being, Elle's insightful perspective is not to be missed.
Moving beyond the personal, Elle doesn't shy away from discussing the overarching issues of isolation and the quest for authentic relationships. She imparts her wisdom on the power of self-forgiveness, the pivotal role of self-care, and her innovative approach to helping clients cultivate meaningful bonds.
Whether you're grappling with loneliness or striving for genuine connections, Elle's strategies offer a beacon of hope. Prepare for an eye-opening conversation that will challenge your perceptions on personal growth, self-discovery, and deeper relationships.
Don't let this episode pass you by - tune in to hear Elle's inspiring words!
To work with Elle: https://heart2heartcoaching.org/calling-in-the-one/
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Speaker 2:Hello everyone, Welcome to their spiritual spotlight series. Today I am joined by Elle Abusaday. She is a dynamic life and relationship coach who has transitioned from her successful entrepreneur career to help others find fulfillment in all aspects of their lives. That is really impressive, Elle. Thank you so much for coming on the spiritual spotlight series. I'm so happy you're here.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much for inviting me.
Speaker 2:I'm somebody who is spiritual, who also works in the corporate realm, so I find I love people who have been in the corporate world, that have transitioned over. I love hearing about their journey. So your transition from a very successful entrepreneur to a life in relationship coach is intriguing. Can maybe you take us through maybe a pivotal moment or moments when you realize your professional success wasn't fully satisfying your soul's yearning?
Speaker 1:Yes, so I mean I build businesses since I was 28. My last one was an electronic recycling company and I had that for around 12 years and I sold it seven years ago. So I guess I was always into personal development, understanding spirituality, reading a lot of books and taking a lot of classes. But then the moment that I realized that this is my calling, to become a relationship coach was when my relationship of 10 years didn't work out and I realized that, oh my God, we don't want the same things. And we had a conversation and I said you know what this is not working?
Speaker 1:And I took some classes I don't know if you're familiar with Mindvalley and through Katherine Woodward Thomas and then I said, oh my God, then I understood actually what was my 2% or 5%, what I did in this relationship. And then I realized that throughout my work experience all my relationships with my employees and people that I worked with was excellent. But then in the love relationship there was, like this, many gaps. So then I began working on myself and understanding where the gaps are was and I kind of put from my, went back to the childhood, come back to the present moment, and then I actually cleaned up and I now I understand exactly what I did wrong in that relationship.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I think it's really important that you know I think, as successful entrepreneurs you know that are in relationships like sometimes we can be so focused on our career and then our relationships kind of fall by the wayside, and then we're shocked when it falls apart, like it's like wait what? Like you know and I really respect the fact that you know you unfortunately you had this breakdown, but then you're able to look within. You found courses and you were, you took accountability and really shifted that and now you can empower others to kind of like look, you can have a fulfilling life, a wonderful relationship. I think that's just such an important skill to have for sure. Yes, I mean it's.
Speaker 1:I realized that I actually to keep that relationship I actually ignored my feelings and my needs and just to keep it going and then, at the end of the day, if I'm not fulfilled as a relationship, then why am I even trying? So yeah, so it was just like, ok, you know, but it was interesting. At the beginning I was bitter and angry and hurt and felt very lonely, and it was throughout my working and actually having my businesses. I felt alone because I didn't have that interaction. I was working full time and more than full time and you have your businesses. It's kind of your life. Oh yeah.
Speaker 2:So you mentioned that you were working full time and that you had a transformative journey of self discovery that you embarked on to find a balance between the professional ambitions and emotional well being. Could you maybe describe some key moments or experiences during that journey that were spiritually enlightening for you?
Speaker 1:Yes, so I mean, even today I can say I'm a local colleague. I am, but at the same time I question myself on a daily basis that is this what I want to do? Is this where I want to go? And I give myself breaks, I go every morning, I go for a hike. I mean, there's like self-care stuff that I never did in the past. I, if I did, it was just like so, it was not intentional and it was just not. It wasn't like it didn't work for me. But now I actually have a great relationship with myself.
Speaker 2:I mean that's really super important. Like as it doesn't, even even if you're a homemaker or you have a career. Like I feel like so many of us put self-care to the side and it's like it's almost a stigma to really take care of yourself, and it's like, no, if you and I'm sure you feel this now too Like if I'm not fulfilled and happy, then how am I going to provide love and care to other people?
Speaker 1:Exactly exactly. And the other. The other key thing that worked out for me was I befriended my feelings, which I could not do in the past. So if I'm sad, angry, happy, whatever feeling comes up from the interaction that happens outside of me, or some incident happens and some kind of triggers it's, I have some tools now that I can. You know and that's how, what I teach my clients that it's OK to just sit with that feeling at least two minutes, five, whatever time it takes for you to understand, and so, ok, you know what. You're angry or you're sad, it's fine, let's let's look at that. What happened? What do you need?
Speaker 2:now, yeah, no, I mean, you're right, like so many of us, it's like, oh, it's like we're afraid to have a feeling, but no, it's like no, your body is telling you something and, like you're saying, you're digging in with your clients to say no, what does this mean? Let's, let's, let's. You know, look at the deeper meaning here, the deeper layer. It's so, so important. We kind of like I feel like we get on blinders, you know, with our day to day and it gets uncomfortable to look at, you know, aspects of our self that we might not want to take ownership of. How do you perhaps coach your clients in, you know, really helping them to have transformations, while also kind of I feel like it's integrating, like the dark side with the light side?
Speaker 1:Yes, it's a balance part of it. So I do work with a bunch of entrepreneurs that they're like really successful in business and not in their relationship, exactly who I used to be. And it's a balance and it's just being so in touch with who you are and what your needs are, and it's it's it's work, but it's step by step. And then it's understanding how you kind of interacting with other people, even the movement, even going to the buying grocery, do you have the eye contact with other people, do you say hello or you just like zoom in and out and it's just you're not open to receive interactions and have a conversation, just a small. You know, I zoom in and out.
Speaker 2:So maybe I need a box of instructions. So it sounds like you have a very deep understanding of the significance of true human connection. Can you maybe elaborate on how you guide your clients in developing authentic relationships and why do you think it's crucial for their spiritual growth?
Speaker 1:I mean the first step is to be understanding who you are and be okay with where you are and what has happened in the past. A lot of clients, including myself, have some interactions in the past life throughout their families. That is not pleasant. So we go step by step and the forgiveness is part of it, that understanding that the people that kind of shaped who you are today. They didn't really have those understandings or the tools or knowings and that's the way that you just forgive that, what happened in the past. And then let's just start from today and see who you are now and what.
Speaker 1:I give you an example I had a client who in his 30s he has a child in the middle of the divorce and a lot of interactions with the ex was about his interactions with his dad. So in a couple of sessions he really understood how that has shaped who he is, those interactions. And then the question I asked him was that, okay, you have a three-year-old daughter, are you going to also model those interactions with your child today? Or I mean that was the time that it hit him but yes, he had a big, huge, hard, beautiful man that he needed that kind of understanding and opening in his heart. That was then, and today is today, and this is the three-year-old daughter that he has that he has to work.
Speaker 2:You bring up a good point about forgiveness and I feel like forgiveness for people can be very difficult. They may not want to forgive others for actions that were done to them or they might not be willing to forgive themselves. I would say that's pretty really like a really hard component of your coaching.
Speaker 1:How can you help?
Speaker 2:people really truly to the forgive themselves or to release the energy of the issue that happened to them.
Speaker 1:Okay, so it's a process and it's a journey and it takes some time and basically you forgive others because of for yourself. It doesn't mean that you have to have that interaction on a daily basis. You know, you just, a lot of times I coach my clients to do like a kind of meditation, kind of forgiveness in their head and looking at the other person sitting there and they can't tell the other person exactly what has happened and what has bothered them. So that release of talking and if even the other person is not sitting there, that would be very soothing and at the end of the day, the energy. It's all about the energy that brings up yeah, that brings up for when you forgive someone, and then the energy that when you forgive yourself, then you be. When you forgive yourself, then you'll be kinder to yourself.
Speaker 1:I mean, I had another client so I told him why don't you, I just invite you to, when you wake up in the morning and when you're washing your face, look into the mirror and just tell yourself that I love you? He could not do it for like many weeks and then I said, but just, I invite you to just try every morning, it's okay, and he would get very sad and but at the end of because we worked on those why he cannot say I love you, because he was ashamed of his behavior and this and a lot of other stuff Then we opened it up and then we cleaned it out and actually at the end of the I think we had 10 sessions and he was able to at least look in the mirror and say okay, I'm here with you, I am holding you on your journey. The love part didn't come that easily, but I hope that one day he can do that.
Speaker 2:And I like the fact that you it may not necessarily like I know that you do relationship coaching, but you're also doing coaching for for the individual to truly kind of honor themselves, honor them where they're at and love themselves. And I think have you experienced a lot of your clients that, like you said, you had this one gentleman who obviously, you know, didn't feel like he was enough and worthy of love. Have you had other clients you coached through that then really now you're like, oh my goodness, they're, they've empowered the beautifulness that they are.
Speaker 1:Yes, and it's you know. Every client, almost every client that I have, we have to go through that journey of understanding who you are and actually loving yourself first, and then you can open yourself up to bring that life, ideal life partner to you. A lot of people don't know what values they have and what that values they, you know they want to have in the other person. So it just it's a. I mean, the first few steps are the self discovery to understand who you are and embrace who you are and then open yourself up to bring your ideal partner.
Speaker 2:So you bring up values. So what role do values play in your coaching methodology and how do you assist your clients uncovering their own values, and why is it such a fundamental step towards achieving personal and professional harmony?
Speaker 1:I mean it's, you cannot be dating someone or going out with someone who was not honest. If that's the value that you consider that's scary, yes, that's you. If you're an honest person and you want to have another honest person in your life, so you say this is about, and if there's you, if the other person doesn't have that value, then it's not going to work. Even if you like five other things is the same thing that you want, but that, if that's the highest level of who, the value that you want having your heart then it's not going to work.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so do you help your clients to kind of like uncover. Look this. These are the values that mean the most to me and this is the values you should be looking for another partner.
Speaker 1:I give them homeworks. Yes, yes. So there's a lot of like. So this is how I work I have them, I give them homeworks. There's a question? The passages that they have to read, and then, when they come back, we process everything together. Okay, so then they I mean, on the questionnaire, it says what are the values that you have and what are the values that you want in your partner? And I, you know, I really invite them to go deep, because that's the time that they understand what has not worked in the past. Yeah, what they can invite to come in today that will work for them.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I like that you give them homework. It's almost like, look, we're going to process this together, but this is work that you're going to dig in and do yourself. It's super important, because if you're just coach, if you're just holding their hand, I don't know how much transformation they're going to be doing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's a commitment, and also, I don't call it homework, I call it hard work. Oh, it has to come from their heart and they have to commit to themself. The first time that we meet, I asked them what's their intention of these working us working together. And I keep, every time that we meet we look at that intention. Sometimes we change it modified, but that intention has to kind of carry to our those decisions that we work together.
Speaker 2:So it sounds like you have like a tailor made package system for the each client. Can you maybe tell us a little bit about the packages or the programs that you offer for your clients now?
Speaker 1:I coach my clients through calling in the one and conscious uncoupling book and I have seven or 10 or 12 sessions that I offer. Actually, I'm putting together a group coaching at the moment that is going to be probably offered getting the end of October.
Speaker 2:Okay, awesome. So by the time this interview airs, you'll have that coaching program. Will you be launching another one? Do you think in 2024?
Speaker 1:I am looking into different. Yes, because I see that as a very successful entrepreneur, you don't have that much time, I understand it. So I'm doing, I'm putting courses together as a massive audio and then they can listen to it anywhere that they are. And then there was just like a worksheet that they can just sit down and then they have time to reflect. And I also offer, throughout those like five or 10 group coaching sessions, two sessions that we can work face to face, one on one.
Speaker 2:Yeah. So if anyone's interested in maybe reaching out to you to do one on one coaching or group coaching, or maybe this audio program with the hard work that you're going to be putting together, where is the best place for someone to go to check you out?
Speaker 1:So I believe in heart to heart relationships, so my website is heart number two heart coaching dot org. So you can find me online and be happy to work with you.
Speaker 2:And any piece of advice that you would give to somebody who maybe, you know, like you, you kind of went through this and maybe somebody that is having a heartbreak or feeling alone or what is maybe a piece of advice that can, you know, help them, guide them towards. You know, like what you did you went to courses and read books any piece of advice you have?
Speaker 1:Just keep in mind that this moment and this heartache, it will pass. Just be open to receiving love from your loved one, that they're there to be with you, and then everything else will work out step by step.
Speaker 2:I love that step by step. That's such beautiful advice.
Speaker 2:I think, we forget that. It's like you know, like you said, like you felt isolated and alone. Sometimes, you know, and it's like, wait, I've got you know, maybe my sister, or maybe my mom, maybe my neighbor, you know, but not Rachel, who's not going to talk to the people at the grocery store. I'm going to work on that just for you. Well, coach, thank you so much for coming on the spiritual spotlight series. You were wonderful to speak with and I look forward to speaking to you again.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much. Have a wonderful day.
